Yes, I’m quoting a One Direction Song. Don’t judge me OK? I have pre-teen cousins.
Yesterday was a very bad day. Yesterday I had a mini-meltdown at work. I’ve never in all my years of work let that happen, but there were many factors to it. Thankfully things are more under control today alhamdulillah, but it just highlighted that I need to find coping mechanisms to deal with everything going on because this is real life. I can’t run away from things any longer and the more I do so, the more things will be harder to deal with when they rear their ugly head.
So, I’m not coping with everything going on. A lot of it is down to things at home, but there’s nothing I can really do about those. And I’m a control freak, I like to be able to control things and its very hard for me to let go and ask for help.
The only other time I had this happen was about 11 years ago at college and I had a total meltdown in college, which shows how bad things have to get for me to ask for help. I think I’ve been coasting these last few years, so maybe this had to happen because when the dam bursts, then something has to give.
In the profession I’m in, you have to deal with pressurised situations every single day, but I chose to go into this. I even did my Masters in the subject so it’s not like I was blind to it, but I should listen to my own advice as I did my whole dissertation on coping and stress. So, I need to re-learn coping mechanisms that will work in the long haul.
Let’s see, and hopefully things will get better inshallah.
What are your coping mechanisms at work? How do you organise yourself when you have lots to do?
If you didn’t say it was a One Direction song lyric, I would have been none the wiser!
I think it’s ok to have a melt down every now and then. Well, not regularly of course. But you should be able to let it all out if it is really that bad. I’d be more worried if you didn’t let it all out and bottled it up and never just broke down.
I’ve had one meltdown at work. I was having a nice back to work meeting with my boss after I came back post dog attack. I just broke down in front of my boss. So out of character for me! But it was sort of cathartic.
Not sure I have a coping mechanism. My mum’s always told me to meditate, but I get so easily distracted! Exercise is really good at getting me balanced out. Those endorphins definitely help. Reading’s helped a lot. So does photography.
*hugs*
Thanks for sharing hun. All the people I’ve told about my meltdown have said the same thing, sometimes you just need to let it all out. Thankfully I feel much better now
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Awww, sorry to hear you had to go through that
. Sometimes all the stresses build up and you need to have a meltdown – a way of your body and mind telling you that something has to be done to ease the stress?
I think a lot of people (myself included) have had some sort of meltdown at work.
What’s helped me in the past is knowing that every situation, bad or good, is temporary, and that Allah swt will never give you a burden bigger than you can bear. Also, making lists (starting off with something I’ve already done, with a tick beside it!) helps me
Surely with difficulty is ease (Qur’an 94:6)
Chin up! Duas for you x
Thanks so much for the advice. Yeah, after my meltdown my manager sat with me and labelled all the things I had to do from 1 – 5, with 1 being the most important. I also bought a pretty new notebook just for To Dos and alhamdulillah that’s helped a lot too. But it’s also realising you can’t do everything for everyone and then letting go.